4.14.2013

Middle of the month already?

Ever just sit back and wonder where the time has gone?  I seem to do that a lot lately.  Luckily, I realize how quickly the year is coming to an end.  Sadly, I realize how quickly the year is coming to an end.  I am torn with that.  I am ready for this crazy, drama filled year to be over, but I am not quite ready for some of my kids to be gone.  I'm not quite ready for my daughter to be done with first grade, either.  I'm not loving the fact these last almost 7 years have gone by so quickly! 

After Friday, we are now at less than 8 weeks of school left in the year.  To be more specific, there are 37 days left.  37!  Where did the year go?  It seems to be going by faster as the weeks come to an end.  My kids aren't all where they need to be to be fully ready for 2nd grade and I need the time to work with them!  But, I also realize that they are still fairly strong in what they know and they just need a little time and extra help to "get it".  At the same time, I am ready for this class to move on.  I have some interesting students who make it a little more than challenging to get things done.  I have some kids who lack motivation, some who know more than I do (or so they think), and some who are too busy worrying about everyone else to pay much attention to their own learning.  Then I have the kids who work hard everyday, participate everyday, do their homework everyday and try to learn something new each and every day they are there.  Then I realize that I still have kids who want to learn and I teach and hope the others get a little something everyday that will make them enjoy school, try harder or want to pay attention.  I hope it helps. 

I do have one student that worked me over good on Friday.  Not a commom occurance in a regular education class, but it happened.  This student has decided that they don't want to come to school anymore.  They are very low and will be repeating first grade.  Many days have been missed because the parents give in and think it's easier to let them stay at home rather than fight.  In fact, the cousin comes to school everyday late since they are in carpool together.  So on Friday, the parent brought the child to school after telling the child that they will have a new teacher that day.  I guess that is what the parent says to make the child come to school.  It's not true, but the child thinks they will be in a different class, so they come.  Well on Friday, the child decided not to let go of Mom.  They had a death grip on the mom's purse.  The acting admin and I were trying to calm the child down and were trying to impress upon mom that she needed to leave and the child would be fine.  Mom decided not go and we ended up trying to restrain the child while mom was talking to someone else.  Somehow, I ended up holding the child (did I mention this poor little child weighs over 100 pounds in first grade) and the decided to jump up and back with both feet off the ground.  Talk about a back ache!  After that, the child flopped on the ground (after we very carewfully set them down so they didn't get hurt) and proceeded to scream for an hour!  I was exhausted, in pain and ready to cry myself.  They finally made it into class after 80 minutes and then were fine the rest of the day.  They were disappointed when they didn't get their hand stamp at the end of the day, but I'm sorry.  I won't reward bad behavior.  We are supposed to have a meeting with the parents, but they keep canceling on us.  I did learn several things from this - you can't make children come to school; - I won't get into this again; - some children are able to manipulate their parents too easily and get away with too much; - children understand good behavior and bad behavior; - I need to know when to say when. 

I have tried working with this child all year and all I get from them to their parents is that I spend my day picking on them.  I work with them one on one quite often to help them, but it comes across as picking on.  I won't spend that much time with this child now, as it makes me sad to think that I have given them so much time and effort and the parents believe I just sit there and pick on them. 

Looking back on this year, I have been a real Debbie Downer.  But that is how the year has gone.  It goes from bad to worse and it's just been a constant circle of crap.  I'm ready to go elsewhere, but there is no where to go.  There are no openings anywhere.  I love my job, I really do.  I love being able to teach my kids and watch them when they get it.  I love having fun with my kids and acting silly.  I love being able to tell them that we are going to "break the rules" and have fun in class when we really should be doing strong academic work.  I love seeing them smile.  I love seeing them learn.  But I'm tired of crap.  And it's been getting worse all year.  We have a very weak administration, and right now, the students and parents are running the school.  And it has put everyone in a bad mood.  I come home and night and feel defeated.  I feel like I have worked hard and it doesn't show.  I feel like I am running ragged and it's all for nothing.  No matter how hard we work, we should have worked harder, done more.  I don't know what more to do.  I have tried telling myself to ignore it and focus on my own kids and class and that has helped, until the crap gets deeper and causes more issues in an already fragile situation.  So for now, I am going to keep focused on what I need to do for the rest of the year and then enjoy the summer to recharge.  I have no idea what's ahead for us next year, but I hope it can't be any crazier/crappier/more dysfunctional that it already it this year. 

If you are looking for rainbows and sunshine, this ain't the place.  If you want honest, here it is.  It isn't pretty, but this is how it is.  And now, I will watch my followers drop off like flies as they go look for the happy-nothing-is-ever-wrong-in-my-life blogs!  Happy Sunday!

3 comments:

  1. I have to tell you, I LOVE this post! I love the happy-sunshine-life is great, blogs, too. But it's nice to know that other teachers have the same feelings I do sometimes. It can't all be stars and sunshine all the time and after all. Thanks for being honest and laying it all there. It helps to know that you're not crazy and it feels good to relate. Hang in there!!! We're almost done, we're going to make it, June will come soon. :)

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  2. It sounds like you have been on my campus! IDENTICAL! The fun is gone and I am ready for a break. Hang in there. You are not alone.
    Darlene
    jdsargo@sbcglobal.net

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  3. Thanks, ladies! Makes me feel like I'm not alone and not crazy. I'm on countdown and that's what's getting me through it all!

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